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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·2 days ago

How to Not Give Birth at a Funeral

Coping with my grandad’s death during my surrogate pregnancy — During the month when I expected to give birth, my plan was lots of quiet, relaxing, oxytocin-inducing activities and staying close to home. However, my grandad, unfortunately, passed away at the start of the month. His funeral was scheduled for a few weeks later, just 4 days before my due…

Surrogacy

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How to Not Give Birth at a Funeral
How to Not Give Birth at a Funeral
Surrogacy

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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·Jan 13

The Third Trimester

Coping with the last few weeks of pregnancy as a surrogate — My second trimester felt very easy and I was still able to do lots of the things I would have done without the pregnancy impacting my life too much, most notably camping for three nights at a music festival (where I loaned my camping chair to someone who was 7-months…

Surrogacy

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The Third Trimester
The Third Trimester
Surrogacy

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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·Dec 30, 2022

Planning a Home Birth

Going from fearing birth to being excited to give birth as a surrogate — When I read my thoughts on birth from before I got pregnant, I don’t recognise the person writing them at all. I describe childbirth as “difficult and painful” and focus on “the fear and the pain and the mess”. Most notably, I conclude that “I still think I want a…

Birth

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Planning a Home Birth
Planning a Home Birth
Birth

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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·Dec 16, 2022

The Secret (In)fertility

The connection I’ve found through becoming a surrogate — When I became pregnant as a surrogate, I expected the experience to bring me close to the intended parents, and maybe even closer to my partner. However, I didn’t expect that I would end up connecting with far more people about their journeys to parenthood. In order to prepare to…

Surrogacy

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The Secret (In)fertility
The Secret (In)fertility
Surrogacy

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Published in Polyamory Today

·Jul 23, 2022

Polyamory and Pregnancy: How I Navigated Polyamory as a Surrogate

Polyamory brought many benefits and challenges during my pregnancy — For the last seven years, I have been practising polyamory and, for the previous seven months, I’ve also been pregnant. However, I’m not pregnant with the baby of anyone that I’m dating or dated, it’s not even mine: I’m a surrogate carrying a baby for some friends. When I decided…

Polyamory

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Polyamory and Pregnancy: How I Navigated Polyamory as a Surrogate
Polyamory and Pregnancy: How I Navigated Polyamory as a Surrogate
Polyamory

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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·Jul 22, 2022

My Pregnant Exercise Routine

I know I’m supposed to keep active during pregnancy, but how? — All the official advice about exercise is that pregnant people should continue moving their bodies as much as they can and that keeping active during pregnancy leads to all sorts of health benefits, from fewer pregnancy complications to quicker births. However, that’s easier said than done. Before I got pregnant…

Pregnancy

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My Pregnant Exercise Routine
My Pregnant Exercise Routine
Pregnancy

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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·Jul 8, 2022

Scans as a Surrogate

What happened at the antenatal scans for the baby I’m carrying? — As their surrogate, I witness an intimate event in my intended parent’s life: the scans of their first-born child. So far, we have attended three antenatal scans together and watched their baby grow from the size of a blueberry to the size of a large banana (and the baby is…

Surrogacy

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Scans as a Surrogate
Scans as a Surrogate
Surrogacy

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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·Jun 24, 2022

“Are You Going to Be a Surrogate Again?”

Thinking about carrying another surrogate pregnancy while I’m still pregnant with the first — I went into surrogacy thinking it was a “one and done” for me. I wanted the experience of pregnancy and when I’d had that I couldn’t imagine wanting to do it again. However, once I learnt more about surrogacy, I discovered that, apparently, it can be quite addictive. In the…

Surrogacy

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“Are You Going to Be a Surrogate Again?”
“Are You Going to Be a Surrogate Again?”
Surrogacy

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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·Jun 17, 2022

Coping with Morning Sickness

Tips and tricks that got me through a queasy first trimester — CW: extended discussion of nausea and reference to vomiting I’ve never been pregnant before so, when I was deciding to become a surrogate, I had to decide whether the risk of morning sickness was something I was willing to accept. I decided that it was, but I also optimistically thought…

Pregnancy

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Coping with Morning Sickness
Coping with Morning Sickness
Pregnancy

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Published in Kim’s Surrogacy Journey

·May 27, 2022

Taking a Pregnancy Test as a Surrogate

I’ve never wanted to see two lines on a pregnancy test before — As a surrogate, it’s sometimes hard to know which words are the right ones to use. Hospital and legal forms refer to me as the ‘mother’ but I know that’s definitely not right. I’m not sure whether I am ‘expecting’ because I’m not sure what that means we’re expecting to…

Pregnancy

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Taking a Pregnancy Test as a Surrogate
Taking a Pregnancy Test as a Surrogate
Pregnancy

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Kim Barrett

Kim Barrett

120 Followers

Freelance writer & software developer (they/them) 📍 Oxford, UK https://kbarrett.github.io/

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